The Emotional Toll of Infertility


The infertility process can take an emotional toll on a couple. Hi. I’m Doctor Schillings. Frequently, couples have been trying for years before they come to our office. Sex may have gone from a very fun event to a difficult chore. There are many emotions that occur with this process that you are going through. You may want to go full force and do every treatment possible, however, your partner may not feel the same way and may want to do a lot less.

There’s a lot to consider when you undergo infertility: you may need to come to the office for many visits; it may take a financial toll; sometimes, these will to be very difficult conversations with your partner. You will need to have these discussions because it is important for your emotional well-being, whether or not you get pregnant. We hope that you get pregnant and when you do, this is a very a emotional high. However, sometimes this is not always the case.

Infertility can be a roller coaster. At the beginning of the treatment, you may feel very elated and very happy because you are very excited that this is going to work. Hopefully it will and often it does. However when it doesn’t, this can be very difficult, emotionally on both partners. We try as best we can to walk you through all these difficult situations, but sometimes it can be difficult and we try our best. You may want to seek outside help too with the psychological counselor, who can discuss these issues openly with both partners. We look forward to you coming to our office and we will try to make this process as easy as we can.


Dr. Schillings is a board certified reproductive endocrinologist, obstetrician and gynecologist. She leads all aspects of patient care at RMAPA. In addition, she formerly led the medical team at RE & I Specialist with the Lehigh Valley Physician Group. Dr. Schillings is chief of the Division of Reproductive Endocrinology and Infertility at Lehigh Valley Hospital Health Network and Clinical Associate Professor of Obstetrics and Gynecology at Penn State College of Medicine.